Wives, Kiss Your Husbands!!!

 

This is just too adorable! But these kittens seem to know how to kiss!!

 

For goodness sake, women, KISS YOUR HUSBANDS!!!  Okay, that's a strong way to start a blog, but there is always a purpose to my musings.  I was intrigued by a conversation I overheard between a male a female colleague. I promise I was trying not to listen....  He revealed that his wife had no desire to show affection much less interest in him.  "She won't even kiss me!"  Why he felt the need to share that with this co-worker - quite frankly - is beyond me.  Could be he was hoping she would be a sympathetic ear.  What he got instead was her telling him 'how the cow ate the cabbage' and how his recent attitudes and statements made her wondered whether his self-centered actions were indicative of how he was at home.

So, this colleague is less than perfect - FAR LESS!!  However, my point in mentioning this sad, yet ridiculous scenario is this: he's a man who, despite ALL of his short-comings (and trust me - there are plenty of short-comings), he still desires affection from the woman he married and yes still loves  deeply.  I highly doubt - even with all of his shortcomings - that he would have mentioned his plight to another woman if his needs were being met. 

Now this post probably seems rather silly coming from a single lady, but I see things, I hear things, and trust me ladies, the things I see and hear have made me start to examine my initial thoughts - and I wonder less why men wander, and more of why aren't you trying to keep him from wandering?  No, they are not saints if and when they wander, but neither are you blameless if he reaches that point.  Like it or not, ladies, your husbands desperately desire your affection - they WANT AND NEED to be physical with you.  Sorry to say, they are just wired that way.  Your old pat cliches of "I have a headache," or flat out saying "not only no, but HELL NO!!! are nothing more than excuses for them to look elsewhere." Realize, when you reject your man who wants 'that loving feeling', you may as well be kicking him in the groin with your pointy-toed stilettos.  And then women wonder why their husbands look at porn, or worse, have affairs.



Gotta love that kiss in the rain between
Holly and "Fred"
 

Here's the problem, women; when you ignore your husband's needs, they start looking to fulfill those needs and for satisfaction in all the wrong places.  (Jeez, I have a bunch of songs I'm using here....) Remember (those of you who are above 25 years of age) the Rolling Stones song - "Satisfaction"  Well, when husbands "can't get no - satisfaction" in their marriages they will eventually find it other ways.  Sadly that may indeed include satisfaction with another woman who is more than willing to give your man everything he so desperately wants and yes, even needs.  Trust me, there are scads of women out there who think nothing of your marriages, and even less of you, and they will steal that very man you think will never leave you. 

I'm sorry, even you God-fearing wives with your God fearing husbands, they too will eventually think of other ways to get their satisfaction.  I'd venture to say - there are several men in churches who have severe issues with pornography just because they can't imagine cheating on their wives physically, so they figure other ways to get some sexual satisfaction.  In their minds they aren't cheating because this is only a picture of a woman; she is strictly fantasy.  Problem is - for some of those men sooner or later fantasy isn't enough, and yes, they will go out and find someone else to fulfill their needs and desires.  And, even Jesus taught that lusting over another woman in a man's mind isas much the same as acting on the thoughts.  Why? because he pretty much has done it already in his mind.

Someone most dear to me admitted to having an affair with a married man.  This man was not only married, but had young children, and she knew this.  It's not like she ever planned on getting involved with any married man, yet involved - indeed she - and they - became.   What was - according to her - an initial attraction he had to her over the social media giant Face book became an affair after he threw all caution to the wind and contacted her.   According to him, he and his wife hadn't been intimate in years (YEARS!!! - he must have been a saint - well, no - no saint since he began this affair - but he was definitely long suffering!).  Problem was he never intended to leave his family even though he professed his love to her, and she to him.  He just needed to feel loved by someone. And to the both of them, their affair was excitement.  Unfortunately, he didn't really take her emotions or anything about her into account.  But she had to admit that she was not without blame.  She had to admit she didn't think much of his marriage since she was a willing participant.  According to her, what woman would ignore the needs of her husband?   She unwittingly thought this guy pretty much hung the moon (though she admitted he was no real looker, in her eyes he was a prince - mor like a prince of thieves!!).  The affair, quite frankly, was all about him.  In the end she was devastated by the affair's demise, yet she knew what she was getting into - a relation that was going nowhere.  She questioned - was he now receiving some sort of affection from his wife which might have been what eventually ended the affair?  Who knows - and quite frankly who cares.  My friend was hurt - but she is not blameless.  She just gave him what he so desperately wanted.  Too bad he wasn't getting it from his wife; but what was even worse, he used my friend to meet his needs.

It's so sad to think that women find themselves preoccupied with "important matters" that make their marriages suffer, be it children, house work, work, finances, whatever it is. Are any of those matters more important than the loving attention you give to your husbands?  Goodness, NO!! 

Think aboout this:  remember how excited you would get when you kissed your husband for the very first time?? Remember when he looked down into your eyes that very first time and slowly started to move in for the kiss?  ZING!!!  The anticipation of his lips touching yours for that first kiss!  WOWWY - ZOWWY!!!  The butterflies fluttered in your stomach, your heart started beating faster; it felt soo good to be in his arms with his lips pressed against yours: guess what??,  the excitement wasn't only a one-way street:  he felt it too!!  I'd bet he'd love that excitement again. 

So show him love! Give him the desire of his heart - give him affection.  For goodness sake, give him kisses - lots of deep sensual passionate kisses!!!